A
good book keeps you entertained. A true book makes you think. But a truly good book makes
you introspect. It leaves a lasting impact on you and gives you a lesson for
life. Wonder by R. J. Palacio is one such truly good book that I would recommend for young and
old alike.
There are children in this story. Different types of
children. Some are beautiful inside out, others are not. And then there is a
boy who suffers from a severe craniofacial anomaly. There are also parents in
this story. Different types of parents. Some parents are caring and empowering
and encouraging, while others are blinded by love. There are also siblings in
this book. And there are teachers too. Teachers, who, along with the children,
teach us readers too, a thing or two about life!
It is a story of a child who begins school for the
first time in his life in fifth grade. It charts one year of this child’s
extraordinary life, giving us a glimpse into the perfect world that is more
often than not made up of not so perfect people. It is told completely from the
perspective of the different children who form an integral part of the story;
and perhaps because it is a story told by children in their own voice, that we
adults can read it without being too conscious – because this story, more than
anything else, is really about humans, age no bar. The emotions the children
feel, are ours too. The problems they face, are ours too. Even their reactions
are our reactions, but as adults, we have only learnt to disguise them well;
and the children haven’t. The love, the hate, the criticism, the judgements
passed – we have all been there done that, and continue to do it even as
adults. So I feel, this story really hits too close to the heart, somewhere.
Here's one book that teaches empathy like no other
book I have read. It doesn’t preach. It just tells you a story. But when the
lesson hits home, it hits you right where it hurts the most! We have all been
in Auggie's place at times and we have also been in Julian's place too. most of
our lives we are Jack; and very rarely but sometimes we are Summer and Olivia
and Miranda and most of all Mr. Tushman! What we haven't ever done though is
taken Mr. Browne's precepts seriously. But its high time we start doing that. In
fact, Wonder has given me my very own precept: kindness comes from the heart
and is felt by the heart; anything that isn't is not kindness.
The real world is clearly not as black and white as
in a book or a story but the truth is, we encounter all these situations in
life some time or the other’ and how we face these situations, do we show courage
or do we back out; do we show kindness or take the easy way out of being afraid
and hence hate? There is a reference in Wonder to a line from J.M. Barrie’s The
Little White Bird that goes: “…always try to be a little kinder than is
necessary.” And that I think is this beautiful thought that is my biggest takeaway
from this book. Like Mr. Tushman says, after all; “when not sure how to behave,
it is always better to err on the side of kindness,” isn’t it?
Reading this book as a parent, there was another
important lesson that I took away from this magnificent book: your child will
have as much courage as you give him as a parent. Auggie thinks he is normal
because his parents gave him that strength to feel normal at all times. Olivia could
confess her true feelings to her mother because the lines of communication were
always open between the parents and the children, even (or rather especially)
when Olivia turned into a teenager. Auggie’s parents loved him,
unconditionally; and weren’t afraid to tell him. that gave Auggie the
confidence to face the world.
Julian’s parents, on the other hand, kept making
excuses for his wrong behaviour, which is why it took him such a long time to understand
the truth.
Wonder is what you get when a strong story comes
together with the ability of the writer to establish a strong emotion connect with
the readers. It teaches life-lessons in an easy manner, so much so, that I can
have lengthy discussions with eight and nine year olds who have read it! And
believe me they can discuss! Because the story is written in such a simple
language that kids can really relate and understand.
This is a beautiful story about not so beautiful feelings that people have sometimes and a perfect revelation for a lot of imperfect souls! A definite recommendation for anyone nine years and above; especially adults, who are honest enough to open up to their feelings.
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